我们在婚姻里一起成长
美佳堂婚前辅导课程
美佳之窗 His Window 88 (Oct - Dec 2019)
文：温碧琴、甘佩莹、潘恺宁、Aaron Liong、Zach
刘家盛&温碧琴
辅导员: 何李颖璇师母
感谢上帝，让我和家盛有机会接受何师母的婚前辅导。师母精心编排的课程让我们获益不浅，也让我们在进入婚姻前做好预备。辅导课程的顾及多个层面，当中的问题引导我们深入探讨、对话与互动，帮助我们更深入认识彼此，让我们对彼此的期待和感受多了深一层认知，并学习用对方的角度思考。这些都对我们的婚姻关系有很大的帮助。
婚姻是一生的学习，也是一对男女选择彼此委身，努力经营的盟约。我期待与家盛一起去发掘与欣赏当中的美。谢谢何师母用心教导和耐心辅导，给予我们多方面的帮助与引导。谢谢家盛对这段关系的认真，对我付出的爱并接纳我。我们深深地体验到爱的奥秘，也一起体检和经历爱情中的酸甜苦辣咸，享受其美好。最后，我要谢谢那位爱的源头；也是我们关系中的终极引导者—— 我们的阿爸天父。是祂先爱我们，让我们晓得如何彼此相爱。但愿我和家盛的关系能够在主爱中继续成长，成为更多人的祝福。
张建杰&甘佩莹
辅导员：林启伟&黄丽蓉
我们是小学同班同学，但毕业之后没再联络。多亏有面子书，三年半前我们联系上了。
我们是异地恋情侣。恋爱时，我在新加坡工作，他却在吉隆坡。吉隆坡和新加坡的异地恋情本应该不难维持，但我是空姐，满满的航班行程，日夜颠倒，因时差而作息时间不同，使我们的关系维持得很艰难。
两年之后，他向我求婚了，因此我向何师母报名参加婚姻辅导班。虽然我的另一半是非信徒，但我还是拉上他一起参加辅导。因为异地工作的关系，我们的辅导班拖了半年。我要特别感谢辅导员，启伟兄、丽蓉姐和我的另一半，他们的耐心等待和迁就，在我回来的短短两三天时间做辅导。婚姻辅导课程对我们来说，是让我们在短时间里更深
入了解彼此的成长经历、性格、家庭、价值观等各方面。在辅导员的引领之下，一起探讨和学习婚姻之道，让我们获益不浅。与此同时，辅导员也会分享他们夫妻之间的相处之道。
婚姻辅导让我们做了心理测验和身体检查，更了解彼此的心理和健康状况，以确保双方能够在踏入婚姻之前，完全接受另一半的身心灵。迈向人生的另一个阶段，我们总有许多的幻想与彷徨，婚姻辅导恰如我们的指路明灯，让我们在日后的关系里能够更懂得彼此分享、鼓励与警惕。
麦伟伦&潘恺宁
辅导员：符诗诚夫妇
感觉求婚像是不久前的事情，没想到我们已经结婚了，荣耀归于神！哈利路亚！
美佳堂向来都鼓励即将步入婚姻的伴侣参加婚姻家庭辅导课程，以便装备他们。我俩在上这课程前都充满期待，对课程会让我们如何更深入了解彼此，辅导员会怎么带领我们去经营一个荣神益人的家充满好奇。这份期待到了最后并不失望，感谢主！
在何师母的安排下，符诗诚弟兄和李燕薇姐妹成了我们的指定辅导员。他俩经营了超过二十年的婚姻，他们分享所走过的路和生活的体验对我们来说都是非常好的指导。短短数堂课程，我们对彼此之间深度敞开倾诉的内容，都比过去恋爱的那段时间有过之而无不及，也让我们对婚姻和彼此之间的关系有了新的认识。最让我们印象深刻，至今一直互相提醒的就是：“不管发生什么事情，除了与神之间的关系以外，夫妻之间的关系是最重要的，必须最先守住。”这句话深深地烙印在我们心中，也让我们每次在发生争执的时候，都彼此提醒只有夫妻同心， 才能够解决问题。
婚姻是最能够体会基督的爱的关系。夫妻之间能赤身露体而不感到羞耻，这种亲密的关系会让双方都渐渐地把自己最真实的一面完全展露出来。人与人之间相处难免会有磨擦，夫妻之间因着关系亲密而更不能避免。这时候，我们要学习接纳和包容伴侣的不足，并互相扶持地一起在主里成长，彼此所需付出的爱是海量的，也是最接近基督的。
婚姻的旅途非常漫长，或许我们还看不见以后可能会遇到的挑战。但婚姻家庭辅导课程已经装备了我们，让我们意识到在这条道路上，导师会一直陪伴我们成长，让我们感到踏实不少，也期待着有一天我们也能祝福其他的伴侣。
愿所有即将步入婚姻的弟兄姐妹能一起在婚姻里荣耀上帝。
Aaron Liong & Shi Yun
Counsellor: Mrs Ho
My name is Aaron, member of Mega English Celebration. I’ve been with Mega CMC since days when church was still in Taman Megah. I was born and baptised in Mega CMC, therefore, grew up knowing God’s grace and His amazing love. I’m blessed to grow up in this church and blessed by Mrs Ho who guided my wife (Shi Yun) and I in pre-marital counselling. My wife and myself would like to extend our gratitude to 师母 and Rev. Ho for playing an important role prior to our marriage.
Growing up in Mega CMC also means knowing that pre-marital counselling is an important journey to partake before getting married. This is especially essential to Shi Yun as a freethinker. At first Shi Yun was sceptical about the counselling, but we were encouraged by Mrs.Ho to take on the counselling which was led by her personally.
Very soon thereafter, we were into our first session and it was an eye opener with a personality test to ascertain our compatibility. The counselling addresses very fundamental issues that a couple has to face; reality vs expectations, how to deal with issues between husband and wife, family backgrounds, family finance etc. Counselling session was aided by good material, we had to do homework at home after every session, followed by discussions. By this method, we are led systematically in understanding the topics.
Mrs Ho opens up our eyes in many aspects allowing us to see and sense the emotions of ourselves that we may not be able to, without her. Removing obstacles that had been blocking us from moving forward, digging deep into untold worries and stirring up sensitive issues. We have gained so much from this counselling by knowing each other deeper, knowing how to work around our imperfections and most importantly stay together as a team.
Lastly, Shi Yun entered the sessions sceptically but walked out blessed and inspired. I thank God for the big step. All glory to God.
Zach & Pang
Counsellor: Ms Lee Sook Cheng
When Pang and I decided to get married early this year, Ms Sook Cheng recommended that we go through pre- marital counselling. We first had a meeting with Mrs Ho where she explained the many benefits counselling brings to couples in the long term.
We have only gone through a few sessions and this is what we experienced so far. For a start we did a premarital check-up to assess our current relationship’s strength and weakness (e.g communication, conflict resolution, spiritual belief, etc.) This helped us to identify the good points and also areas that we can improve in our relationship. There are mini exercises and homework to be done. The experiences and guidance that Ms Sook Cheng shared with us is invaluable. It helps us to expect and foresee what we will experience and go through in future and how to overcome or benefit from these situations. We feel blessed as it increases our confidence and I have no doubt it will guide us in the right direction as God intended marriage to be.
We would like to thank Mrs Ho and Ms Sook Cheng who was our counsellor. We recommend couples to attend pre-marital counselling. May Mega CMC, Mrs Ho and all counsellors continue their good work to guide our brothers and sisters in holy matrimony.
